
I've been reflecting on life a lot lately. Everything from our jobs, our marriage, our home, our family, finances, etc. The thought of bringing a baby in to this world, and in to our lives specifically, has caused me to do a lot of this lately. oh yeah, and all the haters/negative people too.
I just have to say. I'm proud of us.
Lord knows Joey & I did things unconventional; if anything we just didn't do a damn thing easy. but we followed our hearts and stayed true to ourselves- and thats all that matters. We're coming up on 3 years of marriage (Feb 5th) and its amazing how far we've come from where we started.
When we were dating, EVERYONE thought we were both nuts. we let them think that and just kept doing what we were doing. If I were an outsider looking in? I may have felt the same way too-- we hadn't seen eachother since High School (so it'd been..almost 3 years) I was living in Athens going to school and he was over in Germany in the Army. We reconnected on FB and the rest is history. Facebook- thats right. THATS how we reconnected, and now? We're married with a baby on the way!
BUT like I said, we followed our hearts. It wasn't an easy path. We were apart about 95% of our courtship. Relying solely on email, IM, Skype. I would stay up till after midnight so I could see him when he woke up in the morning (thank you 6 hour time difference), then he would stay up late to see me when I got off work. It was hard, VERY hard. But we made it work. He came home once for 2 weeks, and a few months later I went and spent a month in Germany with him. Those brief visits together is what reassured us we were meant to be. We both knew quickly, we'd be married. I knew God put this man here for ME.

Then came the deployment, that ALMOST broke us. A very long 15 month deployment to Iraq. We had the Germany thing down pat. but this was a whole nother monster that I can honestly say I wasn't ready for. This wasn't Joey's first rodeo, he had deployed to Iraq once before,already. It shook my world. I was constantly worried for his safety, I'd go days or weeks without any kind of word from him. When I did hear from him it would be an email or letter in the mail. Phone calls were few and far between, but when I did get to hear his voice? it was the best feeling in the world. To hear him say I love you, to hear him call me sunshine- it makes me tear up remembering it now.
But then...it got bad. Out of nowhere we broke up. The pressure of the deployment was... a lot. I won't go in to the details/reasons why, those are personal to us. but it happened. and it broke me. I totally lost myself, I was literally nothing without him. Yes, I am a die hard romantic-and it may sound dramatic. but I KNEW in my heart, he was supposed to be my husband. Joey knew it too- cause we still talked and went back and forth during that 3 month break up. All the while he was still in Iraq.
and then? we both stopped fighting it and gave in, got back together and he asked me to marry him. Seriously. Thats how it happened! Next thing I know I'm telling our families that when Joey comes home on RnR we're getting married. I had a mere 3 weeks to throw a wedding together!
and you may wonder WHY we decided to get married so quickly instead of waiting, having a nice long engagement, a big wedding, ya know..do it the 'traditional' way. Well, at the time he was planning on re-enlisting, and changing his MOS. BEFORE that happened we wanted to be married, so I could go with him.(obviously some things happened and we decided the best thing was to get OUT of the army) We didn't want to be apart anymore, so we took control and decided thats what we were going to do. We had our families support 100000%, they were thrilled for us! SO yes I gave up the engagement pictures, engagement party, big traditional wedding, honeymoon, etc etc. But I didn't even hesitate, because I KNEW this was right.
Fast forward to his RnR...we hadn't seen each other in almost a YEAR. Went through a break up. SO much had happened! and next thing I know I'm SPRINTING through the airport to find him. THAT moment, is one I will LITERALLY never forget. Jumping in to his arms, feeling him, smelling him, seeing him, OH MY GOD I can't even describe to you the feeling of seeing him in one piece safe & sound-- and here to MARRY ME.
Over the next three years we would experience, A LOT...there was a lot of hard times, and a ton of amazing ones too. We worked our asses off to get where we are. NOTHING was handed to us, EVERYTHING we have was earned and I can say that in all honesty. NOTHING was easy.
let me say that one. more. time.- NOTHING WAS EASY. but thats okay, because we appreciate every single thing we have because of that. We wouldn't have it any other way, I am not complaining that it was hard, that it wasn't easy, that we weren't handed everything, etc. but let me just send out a big F YOU to anyone who thinks that is the case. We are 24 & 25 years old, living within our means. We have nice USED cars, a nice home we can afford to live in, nice things we've bought either used or saved up for to buy new, etc.
I'm so proud of us and the life we've built. I love my husband more every single day. He works hard to provide for our family, treats me like a princess, and reminds me to stress less and have more fun in life. He is a God send! He is already an amazing Daddy, and I know when Adelynn gets here the two of them will have an amazing bond.

Lord knows Joey & I did things unconventional; if anything we just didn't do a damn thing easy. but we followed our hearts and stayed true to ourselves- and thats all that matters. We're coming up on 3 years of marriage (Feb 5th) and its amazing how far we've come from where we started.
When we were dating, EVERYONE thought we were both nuts. we let them think that and just kept doing what we were doing. If I were an outsider looking in? I may have felt the same way too-- we hadn't seen eachother since High School (so it'd been..almost 3 years) I was living in Athens going to school and he was over in Germany in the Army. We reconnected on FB and the rest is history. Facebook- thats right. THATS how we reconnected, and now? We're married with a baby on the way!
BUT like I said, we followed our hearts. It wasn't an easy path. We were apart about 95% of our courtship. Relying solely on email, IM, Skype. I would stay up till after midnight so I could see him when he woke up in the morning (thank you 6 hour time difference), then he would stay up late to see me when I got off work. It was hard, VERY hard. But we made it work. He came home once for 2 weeks, and a few months later I went and spent a month in Germany with him. Those brief visits together is what reassured us we were meant to be. We both knew quickly, we'd be married. I knew God put this man here for ME.

Then came the deployment, that ALMOST broke us. A very long 15 month deployment to Iraq. We had the Germany thing down pat. but this was a whole nother monster that I can honestly say I wasn't ready for. This wasn't Joey's first rodeo, he had deployed to Iraq once before,already. It shook my world. I was constantly worried for his safety, I'd go days or weeks without any kind of word from him. When I did hear from him it would be an email or letter in the mail. Phone calls were few and far between, but when I did get to hear his voice? it was the best feeling in the world. To hear him say I love you, to hear him call me sunshine- it makes me tear up remembering it now.

and then? we both stopped fighting it and gave in, got back together and he asked me to marry him. Seriously. Thats how it happened! Next thing I know I'm telling our families that when Joey comes home on RnR we're getting married. I had a mere 3 weeks to throw a wedding together!
and you may wonder WHY we decided to get married so quickly instead of waiting, having a nice long engagement, a big wedding, ya know..do it the 'traditional' way. Well, at the time he was planning on re-enlisting, and changing his MOS. BEFORE that happened we wanted to be married, so I could go with him.(obviously some things happened and we decided the best thing was to get OUT of the army) We didn't want to be apart anymore, so we took control and decided thats what we were going to do. We had our families support 100000%, they were thrilled for us! SO yes I gave up the engagement pictures, engagement party, big traditional wedding, honeymoon, etc etc. But I didn't even hesitate, because I KNEW this was right.
Fast forward to his RnR...we hadn't seen each other in almost a YEAR. Went through a break up. SO much had happened! and next thing I know I'm SPRINTING through the airport to find him. THAT moment, is one I will LITERALLY never forget. Jumping in to his arms, feeling him, smelling him, seeing him, OH MY GOD I can't even describe to you the feeling of seeing him in one piece safe & sound-- and here to MARRY ME.

let me say that one. more. time.- NOTHING WAS EASY. but thats okay, because we appreciate every single thing we have because of that. We wouldn't have it any other way, I am not complaining that it was hard, that it wasn't easy, that we weren't handed everything, etc. but let me just send out a big F YOU to anyone who thinks that is the case. We are 24 & 25 years old, living within our means. We have nice USED cars, a nice home we can afford to live in, nice things we've bought either used or saved up for to buy new, etc.
period. and we are damn proud of that.

this is not me bragging about my life, this is me just reflecting and being thankful. Anyone reading this who 'sees it' as me bragging? doesn't know me, or know us, and honestly? I dont need those kinda people in my life that would be so judgmental. Maybe I sound like a bitch but I dont care! Its my blog, I write what I want! - but seriously, I'm just really sick of people talking shit, being judgmental, making assumptions that aren't true, and just being all around negative.
so theres my ramble of reflections, curse words, and pride. Heres to the next phase in our life- our sweet baby girl, I have no doubt it'll be the best yet!

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